I enjoy giving advice to others on how to know if someone has a crush on them.
You like him. You like him a lot, so much, in fact, that you'd love it if your relationship moved to a new, more intimate level.
But—and this is a big one—you don't know for sure if he feels the same way. And boy, will you feel like an idiot if you suggest the two of you start dating exclusively, only to find out he thinks of you as just a friend.
Oy.
So how do you know, without risking terminal embarrassment by asking, whether or not he likes you as much as you like him? Here are five ways to know for sure.
If he claims that he can’t be in touch because he has no battery, he either needs a new iPhone or some new lies. You find him on a dating app. Obviously, if his profile is still active on a dating app, he’s probably still on it. It’s possible he forgot to delete it, but a lot of apps will tell you when a person was last active.
Men, even when they like someone, are often reluctant to make the first move and say so. So, if you like him, and you found yourself saying 'Yeah, he does that' to at least four of the above signs, I say go for it! Ask him out. Tell him you're very interested. If he's doing everything I listed above, he is a real sweetie. Grab him!
Isabella on February 01, 2020:
I like this boy he is so cute he plays with me all the the so i dont noh if he likes me.
Alanna Connelly on September 17, 2019:
I like a guy but have no one to talk to and he's older than me (im a freshman in high school). I've already embarrassed myself in front of him before because he has talked to me before once because he asked me to a party but I said no for some reason (probably cause I only get like 3 hours of sleep) he rides my bus and we are the only ones at that bus stop so ya not really anyone else to talk to. But we have never talked except that one time and I was on the bus after school and I was sitting with my only friend at school who happens to treat me like shit so I have no one to really talk to. But anyway as soon as she left he sat there and asked me what street I lived on but, I still don't really know what street I live on because I have lived here for a year (I know I should know where I live by now) and I was like uhhhhhhhhhhh… But after that, he asked me to a party and I just sat there for like 10 seconds staring at my lap cause my face was as red as a cherry. Anyways I was taking so long so I just blurted no… And I immediately regretted it and he ran back to his seat. As soon as I got home I was yelling at myself ;-; My only friend that I was talking about told me he has a girlfriend so I don't really know about that. But also a few days ago I saw him with a girl with red hair that is sooooo pretty (he lives on another street so it was weird) and all they did was walk down the street then walk to his street cause at the end of my street ends. So I don't know about that either. The whole bus thing happened yesterday and I saw him looking at me at school today so thats why I'm really asking you all of this. I guess my question is do you think that I have a chance with him or another chance I guess? And if so I need to know because ive been in hard spots like this before but had no one to talk to. (And remember he is older than me like 1 or 2 years older)
JJ on September 12, 2019:
So I’m in 7th grade, this kid Keegan, says he hates me but is always talking to me and looking sometimes, he asked me to a football game he said I may or may not tell u why I hate you, I asked if he could tell me then cuz idk if I was even allowed to go, he said nope, then smiled, so I want really early bc I had swim at 6:15 and he wasn’t there my other friends were tho so idk I kinda need help does he like me or no (prob a no but idk)
Laine on September 08, 2019:
I I've seen all of these signs, mostly the staring and touching though. Tomorrow at school, my crush is going to ask someone to wear his football jersey for homecoming, all his friends asked someone last friday at the highschool football game. I really know that he likes me, but I'm not sure if he knows I like him, so he might not pick me, but, fingers crossed! I'm in 7th grade by the way.
i dont wanna on September 06, 2019:
My crush looks at me alot idk what to say its hard for me to spit out 'i like you' its hard
Beth on September 03, 2019:
My ex boyfriend/friend and his sister lied to me about him being sick and doing chemo and coughing up blood and he might be dying why would they lie about that I know it’s a lie I can never go to the drs with them can never show me any type of paperwork from the hospital or drs office and the picture of blood he sent me was fake because once you zoom into the picture it says “dream time” but really faded kinda hard to see if u don’t zoom into the picture and the picture he sent me when he was at the hospital I found on his Facebook that he posted 2 years ago why would they lie about something like this
Jordyn on August 21, 2019:
I am a freshman at hazelwood west high school. Ive had my eye on this dude since the first day of school i mostly see him everyother day because i have gym and lunch with him i talk to his big brother but not in that type of way and me and him mess around with eachother alot. Today he asked my play brother to get my number for him and my play brother yelled out loud i'm not getting her number for you and he said I dont even have her number my self (which he don't he only has my snapchat ) but then the boy turned to me and said let me get yo number shorty. I blushed and told him my phone was not activated yet, so I only have my icloud(i have an Iphone).Then he asked for my Instagram so I gave it to him then he kept talking to me trying to start a conversation or something and brought up how I followed him back on instagram and only liked one photo of his. I can't really tell if he likes me or not but I like him and been waiting for him. Homecoming is coming up and I want him to be my date so can you help me?
just me on April 01, 2019:
there is a guy in my class who stares at me like always i look away really fast when we have an eye contact but he never easily look away. i really feel uncomfortable and people starts asking if we are dating or something help
Sister james on February 16, 2019:
Ok so my crush ovi likes me bc he always wants to know if I. Okay,if I need anything,and buys me like little things,and always stares at me like nonstop,and I had the courage to ask him out and he said No,then at the Basketball game he sat next to me and bought me stuff then my friend asked him if he liked me as a crush he said yeah. Now idk what to do.
Anonymous on December 04, 2018:
Help. Theres a boy in ALL my classes and we were bffs until we got into a fight and never talked again. Now I kinda like him but I kinda liked him before, but now Im scared to love again. Theres a dance in 3 days so I NEED to know what to do. Should I ask him?
Boiii on December 03, 2018:
I have a crush on this guy I used to date,we broke up because he cheated on me and I still like him.In a basketball game we got to sit next to each and we had small talks and then my friend asked are you guys still dating and then we both stared at each other for a long time eye to eye but then i said no not anymore.Thereis a guy who I think is handsome and he stares at me a lot in class and when were on our way to a different period I catch him staring at me and talking to his friends
NinjaWillOw on November 29, 2018:
When my crush sees me he will stop talking to his friends and start talking to me and I walk to him after our last class to the lockers and stand and talk to him as he puts his stuff up and I don't know if he likes me as just a friend or not and I'm afraid to ask
Name on October 12, 2018:
my crush today chased me, told me he loved me, and blew me a kiss. Then later i asked one of my friends to ask him if he hates me. He said no. Then my other friend asked if he liked me, and he told him, that he hates me. Does he hate me? Or does he like me?
idk on October 06, 2018:
what does it mean when your walking in the halls and there a fight going on and your crush touches your shoulder. I didn't have time to look back cause I was so shocked.
no1 on September 22, 2018:
i really like this guy but i dont know if he likes me back like we flirt and stuff but his been acting different dno what to do ??
Leandra Fernandez on September 06, 2018:
A boy likes me at school and you know why I know why because his friends tell me
no one on August 23, 2018:
this guy said he has feelings for me but he's with his friends so I don't believe him
Banana on August 10, 2018:
So there's this guy that I like a lot,and he's in my reach class...he usually kicks my bag and always say my name cause I smile when I look at him.we even wrote a letter to each other
anonymous on July 09, 2018:
Hi, there's a guy that I'm with at the moment we both like each other, we sext, kiss when we meet and tell each other that we love each other but then he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet and I don't know why we both clearly know that we're falling in love with each other, what could be the reason why he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet, because what we are right now is really complicated
#Unicorn on June 26, 2018:
Hi I’m in yr 5
There is this boy on my table he’s super nice to me and goes hysterical at my jokes ( I’m the jokey type )! I think he has a crush on me! Can’t be sure though.
BUT there is another boy he’s in the yr above me , he really funny and kind of cute/good-looking! There’s a huge rumour going around my school at the moment: everyone is saying that he has a huge crush on me and thinks I’m pretty and wants to ask me out! Also in a few weeks we’ll end up doing this club together!?
AWKWARD!
How do I choose which boy?
help.
nana on June 24, 2018:
i have been with my crush in the same house. we used to be kissing and a whole lot. the most sadness news is that he never proposed to me. but now i dont stay in the same house with in anymore but he sometimes text me to come and visite him. we kiss and i love him so much but it seems he doesnt love me bcos he has never told me he love me before. so wat should i do to win his heart cos i really love him
Livie G on May 16, 2018:
idk y, but my ex boyfriend walks home with me and buys me stuff all the time, EVEN tho he has a girlfriend...he spends more time with me than her
Drayiana Holmes on May 11, 2018:
Today i give my boyfriend a paper that say love you
Sam on May 10, 2018:
I told my crush I loved him and guess what? I got dumped he said the feeling isn't mutual now he's married to someone I don't know. I'm still single , and scared of loving again.
charlotte on May 08, 2018:
what does it mean if my ex likes another girl, bu he touches me and takes me out for lunch all the time. we also spend all of our time together, but he says he doesn't like me, even though he acts like he does..
noya on April 27, 2018:
what does it mean when boys freind say hey there is your girl freind
Mia on April 23, 2018:
There is this guy who liked a girl, and then he fell for another girl. His friend says he likes this girl but he denies it. But all the signs that shows a guy likes you is how he is to the girl he fell for. But now the best friend of the girl he fell for sends him a picture. But he says he has never seen her before,and that he had already deleted the picture and that he can't even remember who is in the picture. And it is a picture of the girl he fell for. But he keeps on saying he likes the first girl and that he wants to date her. Please why is he acting weird.
Need Your Help on March 19, 2018:
there is a guy and i'm going to call him L. So when i frist met him he wouldnt talk to me than i found out he liked me. So we became friends and (i like him too) today he starts to talk to me in the hallway and he stars at me so....
Alicia on February 26, 2018:
There’s this guy at school and his friends act strange around me so I think he’s told them about me, he seems to be around me every now and then, and anytime I ever talked to him he started it so I think he likes me.
Tina on November 17, 2017:
This guy I liked well I still do blocked me on social media site because he said I was to intense now he's back telling me he has a girlfriend and the did it he knows he broke my heart what's wrong with him I'm so confused
socio on November 06, 2017:
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Ummm on October 18, 2017:
There is this guy. I am gonna call him C. I like him more than anything in the world. We used to be friends and now he hates me ithink. I am a 7th grader and he is an 8th grader. We became friends. He started to call me babe and 'ardently'touches me when ever we were to walk home. One day he chased after me after I was gonna go into my house. He asked for my number and wrote it huge on his arm. He followed me home twice. We walk the same direction after school. He was texting me and then he asks why do u like me? I tell him and then I tell him no one has a crush on me... But then he said I do. We then text more. And then way later he says he is blocking me. I started to cry and cry. A month later or a little less he walked next to me after school. I pushed him into the bushes. I then yell at him and he keeps asking what he did wrong. Around 6 o'clock at night I text him on a fake number. I said why are you trying to talk to me now? Now u hate me now u dont. He then tells me a sincere apology. It was deep. He said he then talks about how he feels bad because he doesn't like me back. I told her I don't like him because you hurt me. Then I admit to liking him to him. We then text for a while and then he never texts me again. So I text him on another fake number asking if we are friends. He said we can still be friends but I didn't believe him and I told him that. C then says you can believe that. Then he said I have a gf. And I lied and said I have a bf. Then he said I am blocking you... He lied about having a gf. I think he was jealous. He said his friends told him I am a stalker and I want him. His friend Lanie and I hate each other now
Sakshi on July 16, 2017:
So there is this guy he lives on the next floor. I caught him staring at me and then blushing and looking away he complements me. And every symptom u mentioned . his friends even push him towards me . his brother calls him when he sees me . but this dude never replays my message. Our mutual friend thinks he likes me but he talked to me about his crush and first gf. Is he just genuinely being friendly and we are taking it in different manner or actually what it looks like
Zara on March 20, 2017:
Omg omg omg omg omg my freaking hot crush likes me back omg omg omg omg but the bad news is he likes me and another girl ugh why can't he just like me not both of us.
James on March 06, 2017:
There's this guy I like( yes, I'm a girl) and we have every class together. Just today(he sits in front of me and one of his friends sits next to me) he leaned on my desk to talk to his friend. Something happened, and we ended up talking about Disney. He said 'joe' out of no where and I was confused. I asked what, then he looked up at me( whenever we look at each other, its always eye contact) and said, 'Joe Mama' then I looked away giggling, then looked back at him and he was still staring. I said, 'your an idiot.' And he laughed and blushed. I died. (His eyes are the prettiest shades of green and hazel, too.)
ohboiwat on February 05, 2017:
ive known the guy for three months, and we're pretty close? we talk a lot, an he's initiated most of our conversations, and it usually lasts for hours. recently we had this pseudo-date thing (we didn't call it that but I felt like it was) where we watched musicals and a movie. while watching, we got comfortable and he started cuddling me (I responded as subtly as I could). he'd pet my hair and leave his arm around my shoulder. it was really great? but by the end of it, while he was walking me home, he said he thought he was too clingy and was afraid that people may think of us being in a relationship.. and all I could think of was 'what??'
Rosey on January 28, 2017:
My best friend G hates L but one day when she was away he called me cute and i don't know if i should tell her or not and if i do what do i say
anonymous on June 10, 2015:
I like this guy named (andrew) im afraid to tell him because i think he will make a big deal if it. Today he asked me if i wanted to play foot ball with him. His friend says he talks about me on the bus. He flirts with me a lot. Sometimes he asks are you okay. He also says i have to ask you some thing in high school i bet it has some thing to do with dating. He tries to make me jealous a lot. He also shows off to make me impressed. He stares at me and then when i look at him he shrugs and says what. He laughs at my jokes when they are not funny. He complements me some times. He teases me. His friends tell me that he likes me, well more than like. I don't get why he likes me because im a tom boy. So i think he likes me ( its kind of obvious).
Petite ballet on June 05, 2015:
I live in the present
laura on April 26, 2015:
I have a friend that is a guy and I hung out with him last weekend. We used to like eahother but than he friend zoned me bc he didn't want to break our Relashionship. When we we're hanging out and I had to leave I hugged him and than I hugged the other guy that was there (one of his friends). Before I walked away he (my 'ex') hugged me again longer this time. Than stood there and than grabbed be hugging me again. I talk to him almost everyday and we hang once a month bc we don't go the the same school. But he says he likes this other girl. What was the hugs and flirting all about?
lilium on January 23, 2015:
I like this guy he likes me two and his friends all no about me yadadada, but he's worried about the age difference.
I'm 16 turning 17 and he's 21 , we work together but he works at a different store in the franchise. (so we work together but not together if it makes sense ) he thinks I'm gorgeous and perfect and I think he is. But I dunno what to do, any help?
Bushi69 on March 12, 2014:
Iv been in the same class as this guy for 12 years but this year we're in different classes! Iv always liked him and when i was in my last year in primary school he asked me if i would go out with him, but I said no basically because i was afraid, but now i talk to him every once in a while and he sometimes comes into my workplace where i work part time and i talk to him there, but he isnt really the type that would text girls anyway as he is kind of shy, but i dont know if he likes me back , nd i dont want to embarress myself in front of him , what should i do?
Lauren on February 01, 2014:
Hi...
I want to know this boy. I like him, and I know that he likes me. However, his friends always get to him first. Help!
Sam on November 02, 2013:
I like this guy we were so close in six grade now were in seventh we have no classes together but lunch I see him starring at me where every were I go and we had a Halloween party and he would look at me the hole time or go we're I am with his friends
Ava on October 21, 2013:
im in 5th grade and a boy had asked me to the dance and i said okay but now we cant talk to each other, and his friend just told me his moving in a couple of months! Before he leaves how can i make small talk?
trisha on June 09, 2013:
there is this hot guy in my class he likes to stare at me and he likes to dance and smiles at me so i wander if he like me bcuz everywhere i go he is there i really love that every time i see him i bcum crazy seriously i wish he could just kiss him
chrisie22 on June 04, 2013:
Theres this guy in my class, he is kind of my friend but I don't talk to him much a day (4 or 5 times maybe) but is (somehow...) always around. then our class reads out loud for hw. I often tend to catch him facing me even though he is far in the other side of the class. after reading, he compliments how good a reader I am and then asks (or tries) to shake my hand. Even if I don't shake his hand, he still tries something like asking if I CAN ELBOW FIVE HIM?? Every Day. I find him kind of unusual though...
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Laurence on December 23, 2012:
My wife has been a cheat. We have been married for 22 years. In the last few years we have been having problems because i never knew she was cheating on me till a friend of mine saw her with the guy in a hotel. She has been rude to me and everything about her has changed all because of a guy whom i dont know. Just early this year she was calling for a divorce accusing me of assault. Then she called and told them I beat her with a belt. Thank God I met this spell lady 'priestess Ifaa' who a friend introduced to me. It was so pain that my family is tearing apart. I would even go to jail but this spell lady consulted the spirits and told me that the guy place a spell on her for her to distroy me and marry him. This hurt me so much and i asked the spell lady to make the spell reverse. I did everything to make sure the spell was done and on few days later the spell started manifesting because we were back together and we were happy just like the day we got married the reverse spell this spell lady did made the guy go far and never come close because he is a demon. She could not work or support herself that's why she was acting that way. This spell lady is great, she has rescued my family. i met the spell lady though her email ID
priestessifaa@yahoo.com. meet her and get your solved.
Maria on September 28, 2012:
There is this guy i just liked this week and he did not know i liked him. But, then my best friend i told Emily told him i did not tell her to tell him. So then he started telling all his friends! they were talking about me at lunch! i do not know about what. They said oh look guess who it is maria ur lover!! i was likes whatever! just walking away! Then, he started looking at me holding my hand he said stop! are you okay?? I said no! call me! we will talk about it. I was like okay! Then we went to gym and everyone staring at me! he was changing for gym! Then after he checked who was here. Everyone was here! So then my friends started pulling me to Richie. his friends too! So we ran into eachother we also K-I-S-S-E-D! then he helped me up! said thanks Richie! Then his friends started taking the note! and then Tommy riped the paper and he ran and said why did you do that?? I loved that paper!! From her! she is sexy!! Don't tell her but i think i really like her too!! So i asked for his number but, he lost his phone! So i told i fell bad for you!! When i talked to him his face was all red! i could tell he liked me! In my homeroom class he sat in right in front of me! i sat behind him.I have a locker right next to him which is awesome!! He said i have to do ask you something!! monday it was a dare! That he had to ask me out! he has to call me!! Tim said ' look it's Maria you know you like her'!. Ask her Monday then. This was this year! I am in 7th grade we are both 12 years old. And the school is at: Spotswood Memorial Middle School!.
sonu on September 14, 2012:
a guy always stairs at me i always absorb him where i go hi comes back of me one i was chatting with my friend in a park he came he just took his cell phone and took my image i was knowing that he likes me .then next day i just standing in my balcony he came he saw and blinked his eyes then i came know that he loves me
Xandria on September 05, 2012:
I like this guy, Hector.Well, I think I love him.Ever since the first day of 7th grade in Instructional Tech, I said simple 'Thank you' and ever since I have been really nice and kind.He started touching my hair,wiping my computer screen,touching my face,getting a strand out of my face,hugging me,holding my hand,smiling at me,and for SURE making me blush.The thing is he always hugs this other girl Sarah.I confessed to him (that I like,well love him). And he didn't respond back.This happened after I told him I like him.Which now leaves me with three questions.Does he like me? Is he flirting? Does he mean it?
kat on June 11, 2012:
What about if he was completly like this one night and even more, but the very next day the oppisite?
paridhi on June 06, 2012:
we were in the tuition for 2 yrs we were great friends he did every thing listed above but his his brother didn't liked me and asked him to ignore me.our friends told us we liked each other but we weren't believing this fact.he left the tuition two months ago we met a little crying on my bed i hated to remember him but it was impossible it was rather like a breakup 3 days before we started to hang out again as 'friends' i like him a lot but don't know about him don't know what do!!
Marie on May 29, 2012:
So I'm friends with this guy an I never knew he liked me and I always had a tiny crush on him but he always referred to me as his best friend.so ur thought he didn't like me. So we became the best of friends and after a while I began developing feeling for him again but stronger. So he asked me to prom and everything so at prom I tell him how I feel and he tells me that he always liked me but thinks that we should be friends now. I really like him possibly love an don't know what I should do. I know he likes me but he says he thinks we should be friends and I want to be more. Whenever I touch him he jerks away,but puts himself in a position to where I would touch him again. He invites me places but when I get there he ditches me and act like I don't exist and he refuses to text me first.I need help!!!!!!!!!!!
need help on May 19, 2012:
im going out with this boy and ive got to no his brother whoi solder then him abit and i feel all different i even like like my boyfriends brother i didnt want this to happen so what do i do? i dont no if he likes me back and how can i find out if he does? im so confused and i need help please
Confused on May 17, 2012:
There is a guy in my class that always smiles and stares at me and we he sees me looking at him he looks away. He also has high fived me mutiple times.all my friends say he likes me. Does he like me? tomorow is the only day i can ask him if he does and i dont have the courage.
iknow on May 06, 2012:
U eather know or u dont. If ur not shure then or he isent there yet
Roz on May 02, 2012:
Sorry to contradict you, but these are not signs that he likes you. People are all different. There's a guy who I've been out for coffee with a few times and he showed all these signs. I finally let him know how I felt and he shot me down. Some people just have friendly admiration for one another, it's not always romantic.
amy on April 28, 2012:
hey well ive never done this um well ive known this guy for like 4 years more or less and we used to fight a lot and i don't remember much i have random memory dumps serious:( and i recently noticed how cute he is and this was crazy i liked him but i hated him at the same time(did i metion he used to make fun of me?) and i didnt know what to do so i went to his house on saturday after xmas and then we played football and stuff we barly talked i guess it was acward? any way before i had to go he asked me if i had his girl friends number and i like shattered i was like whhhhh--hhhh--en did yo---u get a girlllll friend and he was like yesterday blast past 2 months his gf cheated on him for his best friend and theyve been dating til this day (lol:() and i left him alone for a while then finnaly the day came when i snaoed i went to his house and told him i liked him and was sorry for fighting with him years ago and wished we were real friends and he said we are firends and that made me so happy but apparently he gave me false hope because he called me freak and ugly the next day i cryed so so much and i called him a doche bag and so on we stoped talking and i still had a huge crush on him and i couldnt stop and this is were i stand now he gives me so many mixed symbols im lost now hes acting like he likes me and im like what????????? he looks at me ALOT and hes always red around me even my friends told me he talks about me which is a huge suprise so people ------WHAT THE HECK DO I DO NOW?
te on April 23, 2012:
I've been best friends with this boy for 7 years and alot of people say we would be a good cuple and i kinda like him but dont know if he like me what should i do
Notsure on April 11, 2012:
There's a boy i've liked for sbout a year now. I talk to him quite a lot on fb but then i can nevervtalk to him at school because i always get so nervous. He know i like him, but nothing has ever happened.
My friends say in English when they're talking about me he always goes red? What does this mean?
Also i invited him to my party, but he couldn't come, he said sorry loads. And i talk to one of his friends a lot, and he says that my crush likes me.
I dunno whether he does or not?! Someone help!!
Breana on April 10, 2012:
Well I really like this guy and he told me he has feelings for me and in the school halls we smile at each other and stuff but one of our friends said he told her he only like me for my body and one told me he really likes me I'm so confused and I wanna ask him but I'm scared I wont know how to put it in words or I'll say sum akward......help please
Racquers on April 08, 2012:
My other half stares at me all the time, he gets this goofy look on his face when he thinks i'm not looking. it's so cute.
Stephanie on April 07, 2012:
I really lik mii best friends cousin I saw him only once but he looks at mii a lot nd god DAMM he's hot nd I try getting to know him from mii best friend nd thts a little awkward. She hates when I call him hot nd she slaps his butt nd says she always does tht to her cousins but still wat shud I do??? Idk???
Harmony on April 06, 2012:
I'm confused. My brother's friend has been hugging me a lot recently, caught me off guard a few times with these hugs. Whenever he sees me he always comes over to talk to me and always has a huge smile. Is he just being friendly? I don't want things to be awkward if I read into this in a wrong way.
suman on April 05, 2012:
we chat the whole day..he says alot of gud thngs to me, almst al d thngs dat a byfrnd tels a grlfrnd..he spends the maximum time wid me..bt stil says he luv sum1 else..m cnfused..he even says he cant live widout me..does he mean wat he says or he is simply flirting ??
Laura on April 02, 2012:
I like this guy and hes in the class next to mine and one of my friends know i like him and she told him but he said back that he already goes out w/ someone but then apparently he broke up with herlast weekend shes also been saying that he wants to meet me at the pond at lunch but when i go to the pond hes never there so do you think my friend is messing with my head or what
PLEASE HELP!!!
victora on April 02, 2012:
ps im 12 and hes 11 plese answer
victora on April 02, 2012:
hey i have a cush on a cute boy and he makes me laighs and he smies at me. does he like me?
Hetaliajapan01 on March 14, 2012:
Say, if a girl likes a boy, and she tells him by writing a note, and he just shrugs, what does that mean? Plus, the girl and the guy are pretty good friends, and they are always touching (ie, punching, and kicking and stuff like that), and everyone thinks that the guy and the girl should go out
silke on March 13, 2012:
I know a guy in my class and we talked for a couple of times.(we both suck in mahs and we have to sit up in front :(..) that was fun because we both like playing guitair (the talking not the maths). now he keeps on staring at my. does he like my?? he is nice and i kinda like him but i dont want to make a total fool out of myself. i tried to talk to a friend about it but she started to act like a 8 year old.. 0__0
i tried some test what said that it could be and stuff like that but that wasnt a total help...
HELP!!!
Jocelynn on March 10, 2012:
Hey i need help I like this guy name:t.j but i dont now if he like me and i relly want to ask him but i am scared he will say no and i think i said i think he like this gril that ervey badi said that we look the same and i hate hername is all she is hordel but help thel y what do i do with t.jU
Anonymous on March 08, 2012:
There's this guy I really like, the only thing that he does that's in that list is touch me. Obviopusly not sexually. He'll poke me, punch me (playfully), and we even have our own handshake. We aren't like best friends or anything. We've never even eaten lunch together. We sit next together in a certain class and he talks to me like just regular. Not like what class do you have next or who's your Math teacher. He teases me ocassionally. I really like him and I'm sooooooo confused. HELP!
Kay on March 04, 2012:
I go to this Saturday school and there's this guy in my class that I really like. He would often glance at me and I would do the same. When I look at him, he always looks up and finds that I was staring at him and vice versa. Our eye contact would only last for a second and I would look away. We barely even talk because he's always hanging with my best friend. It's obvious that she likes him but I'm not sure if he even likes her. He told me he only likes her as a sister. What is that suppose to mean? But anyways, it's obvious that she likes him. None of my friends know I like him. Me and my other friends knows my best friend likes him so we like tease her about how they're such a cute couple and etc. but they don't know that I really really like him. He's been on my mind 24/7 and I can't stop thinking about him. Everything I do reminds me of him. I was thinking about tell him my feelings but I'm a little hesitant. What happens if he doesn't like me? Only as a friend? It'll just be awkward on our friendship...A little confused on what to do?..
PacoBaxter on February 28, 2012:
at lunch this boy asked me if i liked this one boy right in front of him and i said no when i wanted to maybe say yes. do you think that he believes me that i don't like him?
jess on February 22, 2012:
my brother is kinda a really hot senior in year 11 and im in year nine. His hot friends r always over and talking to me, Liam is the guy i like and he is always pulling my hair (is that a way of telling me he likes me?) and Jayden is always telling him to get off me, and brandon is a sweety and always talks to me and jordy's dad owns the school we go to and they all have crushes on me but i like liam and this crush over me is making them fight and is taring them apart. What do i do?!?!?! :'(
Chloe on February 19, 2012:
hi, ive never done anything like this before but i have a problem.... you're going to think im an absolute b***h but i cant help my feelings...so here goes... i was friends with this guy and he had a huge thing for me but the other day i told him that i didnt want it to go any further because id rather be friends.... but the truth is i have the biggest crush on HIS BEST FRIEND!!!! i know i know its so awful i feel like crying sometimes because i feel like ive betrayed him but i asked my mum for advice and she said that all is fair in love and war and ive heard him talk about me saying that if it wasnt for his friend he would make a go of it with me but he doesnt want to fall out with me... what do i do? help!!! i know he likes me..
Much love Chloe xxx
P.S. I hope you can help me.
ShOrTy on February 18, 2012:
i like this guy at my church and i am best friends with his cousin, and i am not sure if he likes me but i think he does. i am just afirad to hurt my bestfriends feeling if he asked me out. what can i do???
lauren on February 17, 2012:
my friend told a boy i liked him he looked at me and smiled then we went to class and he was staring at me and somethimes we would look at each other at the same time he was going to ask me out but a girl he asked out before said yes so now he is going out with the slut and i hope he realizes i actually liked him and i didnt want to add him to a list of boys i dated and thats only 2 my whole life im hard to get yup,but when i fall in love im in love. i think they will last a week because she has had 30 boyfriends this year and i have had none this year and i only liked him so now im really sad
12345678 on February 15, 2012:
There's this guy I like but he has a gf and he does 3 of the 5 things,and I don't see him with his gf a lot anymore ,does that mean he even likes me the slightest bit??
Cora x on February 15, 2012:
Well erm i dont know if i like this lad. Were in the sane year but dont have the same lessons. We used to always text. He is kinda my boy-bestfriend. But at the last disco he was hugging me all the time and dancing with me and my friend. I dont know what to do!! Please help!! Does he like me or not?? :/
Jennifer on February 15, 2012:
Hey, this is kinda long but i really need help; im in year 10 and have a huge crush on this guy, weve known eachother for quite long now and im not sure if he likes me more then a friend, he is always talking wiv me and laughing with me and he follows me around evreywere in school and on school trips and when im wiv him his pupils dialite,.pls help://??
anne on February 13, 2012:
i know this guy, but i haven't known him for long. it has only been about 3 months. at first he was really nice to me, but now he is kinda mean to me. He always throws stuff and me and calls me names, he knows it won't hurt my feelings but I don't know if he likes me or not. he does things like pushes me off me chair, or drags my chair while i'm in it, or throws anything he can find down my shirt. i catch him dead staring at me when i'm talking to my friends. I don't know if he likes me or if he is just being a guy. what do you think?
mini.me on February 10, 2012:
well...i like someone in my class... and he knows it...i always try to deny it but when they tease me with him..i end up blushing! ...I really don't know what to do...i thought maybe since i'm always denying it..he thinks i don't like him anymore...well...the problem is ...how will i do know if he likes me..if every single move he/me makes with each other...issues are swarming up..i'm really in trouble,..please...help me...
LOVE LOTS!
Missing love on February 08, 2012:
Ok so I was working at on Halloween at a zombi shoot. One of the guys was flirting with me and I started to like him. I was sitting on a crate (5 feet off the ground)and he came up behind me and said that he wouldn't let me fall that made me blush and he saw it. After a while of him talking I took off my face mask he was worried that i was going to get hit so he put the face mask back on my face. He asked me what I like to do and I said sing and I sang him a song, he said it was good. Before the last group of people went though he gave me a hug and I swear my heart skipped a beat. I grabbed my stuff then left after I said goodbye. Before I walked out the door his mom called him by a different name then he told me. I was a little hurt that he lied but once I got into the car my mom told me that he said I had an amazing voice. I really want to see him again but I want to know if he liked me or if he was just bored. Please help me
HopelesslyInLove on February 08, 2012:
I forgot to mention that he randomly came over to my office last week to give me the digital picture frame he won at the Christmas raffle. It was a bit out of the blue.
HopelesslyInLove on February 08, 2012:
I started working at company as an Associate Engineer in August 2011. A couple of weeks in, this guy moved into the office across from me. He was recently promoted to Director of Product Management. So as far as line of management goes, our most common manager is the Sr. Vice President. So technically he's not my manager. He's also 35 and I'm 25.
Now.. to the details. I never really officially met him. We started talking when he was passing out broken pieces of his plant to people in the office. He'd randomly come over to check on the plant and well, we ended up talking more and getting to know each other better. To be honest, I was a little intimidated by him at first. But after a while, I started noticing little things that him that were very sweet. I'd also catch him looking over randomly, even during meetings when other people were in his office.
In November, I gathered the nerves to ask him out on a date. He said he was flattered but it was probably a bad idea since we worked right across the hall from each other. I figured that's what his answer would be since he seemed VERY PROFESSIONAL, but I had to try. So I tried to leave it at that and got really busy with deadlines at work and school. In January, when we got back after break, he started acting a little differently. I'd be busy in my office and he would come in every morning and say hi before he went into his own office. He started initiating conversations all the time. He'd notice random things and make comments. One of my coworkers and I somehow end up matching very often. One day he actually noted the color of my earrings. We were joking about him joining the accessories club one day and I mentioned that he should get a pink shirt like the one his manager was wearing. Interestingly, he didn't know what the color of his manager's shirt was, but he knew the color of my earrings. He definitely flirts a lot more now. He's constantly pulling my leg. He'll tell me little details about what he's doing over the weekend or his plans for the evening, even without me asking. He SEEMS like he wants to say something, but he's not. I'm not sure if he's changing his mind or just enjoying flirting. But his strictly business attitude has dissipated a lot since last year. I really like this guy, but I can't just hang here with his flirting and not. I'm just digging a deeper hole for myself. What do you think would really help him decide if he wants to take the chance and actually go out on a date or just stop playing games?
americaaacheerleeda on February 08, 2012:
ok please answer this because i need to know.
i recently joined this club and this boy straight away started texting me over facebook and being really nice to me and asking me to come out ...
then my friends found out we were talking and they approached him in class and asked if he liked me he said no , he has never been the same with me scince he acts really weird and never talks to me anymore hes nice by himself yet when hes with his friends he can be horrible, hes always staring at me and when i look at him he still stares and he always listens in to my convorsations ... please help dose he still like me?
hoohoo on February 02, 2012:
I'm confused. i have a really cute office mate. he's very sweet. and we became the best buddies in the office. at first, people would think that we are bf-gf. we're extra sweet with each other. the thing is, he's married and have 2 kids. but all the signs mentioned above is happening with us.
BumbleB on February 01, 2012:
how do you now if guy likes u or if u now hes just being a guy and joking around?
HetaliaIsAmazing on January 29, 2012:
Okay, so this dude, Josh, i dunno if he likes me or not.
My reasons to think he DOES:
•He jokes alot around me
•When he does, he looks at me like OuO
•I see him looking at me
•He used to compliment me a lot
•I get the feeling that he does and I am REALLY intuitive
•He acts like a girl (even more so around me)
My reasons to think NOT:
•I tend to be skeptical (I also tend to be an idiot)
•He doesn't do HALF the stuff here online. Except for teasing me.
EVEN WORSE- I dunno if I like him or not.
I am ashamed that I am so desperate that I turned to the Internets for help...
I know you probably don't have a lot of time to, but if someone sees this, PLEEAAAASE RESPOND(:
molly on January 28, 2012:
I'm a junior in highschool and i've never had a boyfriend or very many guy friends but recently i've had a crush on this one guy. I've known him since fifth grade but didn't really like him until now. The thing is, i think i missed my chance because I think he had a crush on me in 8th grade. He somehow got my number and would text me randomly and try to sit next to me in class. I didn't understand that he liked me (at least I think he liked me) so i kind of blew him off. but i didn't mean to! I really like him now and want to at least be his friend but i don't know how he feels and i don't know what to do.
Fresshie 15 girl on January 25, 2012:
ohk so my friend since we were in 7th grade started actig flirty. i have a bf but im starting to really like him. he aways plays with my hair, pokes me, hits me with paper and tickles me. if he hurts me he kisses it. his cousin asks me EVERYDAY if i like him. i said no comment. but he still continues to ask me the same thing everyday. i asked my other guy friends but they say idk im not a expert.. what does this mean?!?! i need answer asap thanks.
chloe ryan on December 29, 2011:
i like this boy and he like me but he never asks me out i seen him before he keepet looking at me and his face went read. should u ask him out
Ambs123 on December 04, 2011:
You see I have this friend Alexander.. I like him alot. i don't know if he likes me back, He invited me to his play 'he Love of the Lamb'yesterday and he always asks for fist bumps.. But I just don't know I have this friend Rose and she is always with me, I mean my best friend is stuck to me like glue. When Alexander stares at me there's always the voice saying he is staring at Rose (Who always gets the boys) Then he goes around and smiles at me in the hallway and is always there IDK!!!!
Alexander always walks with me too while Rose is always up ahead flirting with his lil bro and my ex. Please help I am stuck in this weird world of love and not used to it yet, Why can't everything be as it was Four years ago in 5th grade :(
Laura on November 29, 2011:
I'm a freshman in highschool and I just had sex a few days ago with this guy I barely know. I was at a party drunk and he grabbed me and pulled me upstairs. The rest was just a blur. I woke up the next day and I was in pain. My friends told me that it was like a sex party cause all the girls lost their virginity there. Yesterday the guy who I had sex with kissed me in the hallway and I don't even know his name! He says that he can't wait till next weeks party and that I am the best he's ever had. I'm really scared that he just is using me for sex and he has great lust for me. He still shows all the signs. I'll find out his name tomorrow. I think he's a senior! creeeeeeepy :0
Annabella Nekhlah on November 26, 2011:
So there is this guy who I'm really attracted to and his family are friends with my family. I am Chaldean (Arabic)so his mom asked for my hand in marriage for him, she asked him and he said yes. He had a graduation gathering and he was supposed to talk to me that day, but he didn't I figured out that he was shy especially in front of his family and my family because everyone knew. The thing is before that, every time I saw him he would look at me, but we never talked. Then, it turns out that he has a girlfriend and that's what stopped his mom from talking about the subject till this day. I saw him yesterday at a wedding and he was looking at me as usual, I did too and he saw me, we were sitting across from each other, we just couldn't stop looking at each other. Towards the end of the party we sorta started playing the jealous game, who would make the other one jealous more? It was fun and I enjoyed making him jealous, I started dancing and flirting with other guys and it worked :) He was dancing right behind me, he kept bumping into me to grab my attention, he even sometimes turned around dancing facing my back I felt like I was dancing with him :D I even flirted with his cousin in front of him, he stood there eavesdropping on our conversation, he was pretending he was texting. Sorry I talked a lot hehe but this is just driving me crazy, I don't know him but from what I heard about him from other people made me want to get to know him more, I don't know if he is attracted to me or not. All of his family like me and I am bestfriends with his cousins. As I mentioned, he has a girlfriend but what happened yesterday at the wedding was not normal, especially the jealousy thing. HELP I need some opinions :( I can't stop thinking about him. I think the next time I'm seeing him is at New Years, there is a party and most likely we will be sitting on the same table. I can't make the first move I'm EXTREMELY shy.
Molly on November 23, 2011:
Hey. I'm a freshman and he's a sophomore. We don't go to the same school, but we go to the same church. When we go on retreats and just plain things at church he follows me around and puts his arm around me. He doesn't do this to other girls. He sat next to me on the coach bus a few days ago on the way to and from camp tejas. He just randomly lays on my lap and starts like hold on to me. He compliments me everyday we see each other and I always catch him staring at me during church choir and cause he's a bass and I'm an alto he thinks those two mix perfectly. He also tells me random things like he knows my birthday and my favorite color and tells me that he hasn't had a gf for over two years. Does he like me more than a friend?
My parents met on a New York City subway. They rode the same line and saw each other a few times before one day my dad asked if the seat next to my mom was taken. Ten months later they were engaged and 31 years later they are happily married with two fabulous daughters 😏.
There is definitely more to the story, but there's also a few things that didn't happen during their courtship. My mom didn't screenshot texts from my dad to her bffs. My dad didn't show pictures from my mom's Instagram to his boys. They didn't collectively stalk each other's Facebook pages back to their creation. My mom did not wonder why my dad watched her Snapchat story, but didn't respond to her text.
It was a simpler time. My dad called my mom on a landline to set up dates. They would walk from Queens to Manhattan on foot just talking and exploring . The only people who knew what happened on those dates was them because it wasn't shared on social media. Their engagement had little fanfare and people found out through a phone call or by seeing them in person. There was no 'I said yes!' post and their wedding didn't have a hashtag.
In the good old days people missed phone calls all the time. They were at work. They were in the shower. They were unable to get to the phone in time. Someone may even have taken the message and forgotten to pass it along. While getting a hold of each other was probably frustrating at times, non-millennial couples definitely didn't face the drama millennials do in regards to phones.
I don't know how many times I've heard myself or someone else say, 'He still hasn't texted back which is crazy because I know he's always on his phone!'. This anxious feeling only worsens with each passing hour. Then finally we get, 'Sorry was :insert activity: and forgot to reply'. What?! We thought you were dead! 🙄
Another stark contract between millennials and our parents is how leery we are when it comes to settling down. My parents knew each other less than one year before they got engaged and I've been with my boyfriend on and off for five years. See the difference?
The median age for millenials' first marriage is 27 for women and 29 for men. I'm 27 and four years older than my mom was when she got married. I'm also two years older than she was when she had me and one year younger than she was when she had my younger sister. I'd feel strange if I was alone, but only one of my close friends is engaged. None are married.
Is it a fear of commitment? Is it because we are much more focused on our careers than our parents were? Are our standards for Mr. or Mrs. Right just too high? Is it financially driven? The answer is unclear.
I can't speak for all millenials, but I do want to get married. I'm also paying off a a mountain of student loan debt and not exactly where I need to be career wise. If my boyfriend asked me today I'd say yes, but in the back of mind I'd think how are we going to pay for all of this? What about next steps like buying property and having children? Can we afford that yet?
I know that takes the romantic aspect out of it, but I started college during a recession so for me the sky is always falling. I also know that marriage doesn't mean the house and 2.5 kids need to come right after, but I want them to. So why rush into it?
You're probably asking what brought on this millennial rant? Well, it's a segue into a series I'll be launching about millenial love stories. We may not be getting married as young. We may not meeting be meeting the way our parents did. We may have a some tech/social media drama. We are finding love though! I woud like to explore that.
I met my boyfriend at his fraternity's house party. I was sitting on a couch and he was standing in front of me. Our versions differ, but he claims I grabbed his hand. I dispute this. Regardless of what happened, we got to talking and exchanged numbers.
We met in February. Two months go by, he still hadn't texted me. Even though, every time I saw him at a party or the bar he asked when we're hanging out. Then one day at the bar during the end of March Madness (beginning of April), he asked me again. I started telling him never because he is never going to ask, but he interrupted me by kissing me. From that moment on we were inseparable.
We even made it work when the relationship shifted to being long distance. After two years of making it work, he called me and told me he couldn't do it anymore. I hated him for it, but he was right. It wasn't fun anymore.We did the whole text/call each other even though we're not together anymore thing for a few months before finally cutting the cord completely.
A year goes by and I see one of his friends post on his Facebook wall about them becoming roommates in the city. I tell myself, you're not going to text him! You're finally 'over' him. It's over. One night a couple months later after one too many adult beverages I texted him, 'Hey what's up?'
When he hadn't responded in the morning I started to thoroughly regretting my life choices, but then he replied and immediately informed me that he had moved to the city. In true form, it took us a little while to meet up. We finally did though and have been back together for the last two years.
He teases me mercilessly, tells me like it is, and annoys me like it's a second job. He is also my best friend. Can't imagine a life without the guy.